Its surprising how women overreact when it comes to the issue of her husband taking another wife.
Such wife will tell you, her own marriage was destined and nothing would have stopped it.
But taken a second wife is not a destiny? You have forgotten you do neither have a say or hand in destiny issues. You start blowing out of proportion, you stress yourself, your man and turn yourself upside down,all in the name of trying to stop what God has destined.
Know that a mate attitude towards you depend on your own perception and expectations, if you accept her as a part of your destiny, a co wife, a co- competitor in your race toward Jannah, so shall it be.
And if you take it otherwise, it is at your own peril.
Dear first wife, I know its not easy, but there is nothing that patient will not overcome. If you handle things well it will be well.
But know that when a man made up his mind to take a second wallahil Azeem there is nothing you can do to stop him, the more you antagonize it the more attached he is to it.
The more you criticize the girl or woman the more fascinating she becomes to him. The more you complaint, the more you are becoming a stranger to him,until a day will come he will treat you as a piece of shit. And then your friends and family, will start pitying you, aggravating your situation by feeling sorry for you, and telling you that you have been wronged.
While the irony of the whole thing is,you are the cause of everything.
So women, should prepare for the rainy days, never you believed or imagined that a man will spend his entire life with you alone (unless such is destined) Don’t be deceived, and don’t deceive yourself, tell yourself the truth. Marriage and death can never be delayed or stopped. So accept your situations and bear with patient, because everything shall come to pass, and one day you shall be equal in his eyes.
Polygamy is not easy but who are we to question destiny?
Protesting against another woman into your house is tantamount to questioning God decisions So are you ready to wage war against fate? Do you have the strength to go against this prophetic practices?
To all those battling with Second wife issue pray for God to make things easier, bear with patient all situations. Do not try to abandon him,in fact rekindle your perfect moments act like you are the only wife.
*Umm Aish*(Barr Mariya Shittu)