I was young, undergraduate, 17 years old when I met the love of my life.
After we dated for 6months, he ask to see my parents, I took him for introduction and my parents approved our relationship, we got married exactly a year after our first meeting and that is 4 weeks to my second semester exams, we love each other dearly, I was proud of myself and the training my parents gave me as I married my husband a virgin.
One my first day, I was scared of the first night, but to my surprise nothing intimate happened we ate the usual chicken suya,prayed, jokes about different things amd laugh it off to sleep.
This happened continously for two weeks I was naive and thought everything was fine, three weeks after, he told me he want me to concentrate on my studies so that I can continue to make him and my parents proud with the result after the exam and that was his reasons for us not having anything intimate together.
I smiled and said It’s okay, in my mind I was thinking and praising God that he has blessed me with a good man.
Fastforward, two years later, am still virgin in my husband’s house, not for once I have ever cheated on my husband. In school, I have to face the temptation alone and my fellow male collegues will keep pressurizing me to go out with them as they don’t believe that am married many believe am lying, only turning guys down.
Even if I am naïve, I know the meaning of comitment and above all he is the only man I love, I can’t see myself cheating on my husband ever. I believe I was able to hold on these long because I dont know what it means to have sex, it got to a point where friends and course mate started gossiping that this man gave this girl everything ‘ga kudi, ga Mota, ga waya. komai latest ya fito sai ya siya mata idan bata fito da mota ba, shi ke zuwa ya dauke ta bata wahala but she can’t even bear him a child and they said a lot more.
The first day I heard them gossipping about me, I went back home and I cried my eyes out, my husband came back and saw me crying he asked I said “you’re the one that put me into this messed, I confronted him that day and told him my mind, I told him what I have been going through I dont need money anymore I want him.
He held me tight, the first day my husband hug me this tight, or let me say the first day any man held me this close, he then started crying, I felt bad because that was our first argument.
He kissed me passionately, cuddle and everything went well that day but still no sex.
After three years, relatives started asking “wai mu are we white people da bazamu haihu ba”? He looks at me and we stared at each other for a seconds and he smiled and draw me closer and replied “shi gaskiya yana san matan shi, baya san ta wahala yaro da school ai wahala ne sai na gama school zamu fara haihuwa”.
Now Inside Arewa and all the people reading this, we’re five years into our marriage, no sex, not even for once.
I’ll break it to you now, the big story is that the love of my life is gay, not just a gay a gay but their own gay life is in form of secret cult, and the rule is you marry a virgin and you won’t have sex with her for 8years after 8years din he will sleep with a pig for one week then he can start making love with his wife.
My beloved husband told me this crying 6 months ago! Wallahi I love this man so much I dont think I can leave him for any man wallahi, I don’t know what to do, please help a sister help pleaseeeeeeee I am losing my mind.
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