Suicide is not the answer though
When you reach the breaking point of despair it can seem the only way to escape is taking drastic action.
In many cases suicide seems like the easiest option. Your mind is clouded to the point where you can’t see any other way out.
Often people who have reach this point have been “keeping up appearances” to hide the true situation from everyone around them.
They are unable to comprehend any other resolution. It seems to be the only fix.
The thing is that it may appear that it will fix things for you but it leaves utter devastation in your wake.
Your family and your friends will never be the same again. They will be racked by guilt and regrets.
Some will likely go to an early grave as a result of the strain.
“What if?” can destroy a person’s life if they blame themselves for the death of a loved one.
Don’t suffer in silence
If you are suffering from depression or are suicidal, don’t suffer in silence.
The first step is to speak to someone.
Unfortunately due to the way that depression warps your thinking this will seem like the hardest thing to do.
There is often shame and guilt that makes it hard to broach the subject with people that you know and are closest to you.
One way around this is to talk to a neutral person. There are many services that offer this kind of support.
No matter how bad it seems now it will get better
One of the disorders of thought that occurs during depression is a particular brand of nihilism and fatalism that says that things will never get better.
This is an illusion though. It is not rational, it is not logical and it is not based on any evidence.
Almost all cases of depression will improve given enough time. It is just a case of getting through the dark periods.
Some of those periods will be very dark.
For example, there were times when I would spend all my waking hours figuring out how I could end my life in a way that would not cause any harm to others. -It occupied my thoughts completely.
There is no way to do that though. Suicide will always cause harm to others. The path of least harm for everyone is to seek help.
Once you do and you start to feel better you will wonder why you didn’t do it earlier.
It is not easy and you won’t suddenly feel back to normal — not right away.
It will be gradual and it will take time but that feeling of knowing there is a positive way out makes a world of difference.
I am not speculating here.
I have been there myself multiple times with my own depression (and also with my patients).