By Dr. Binta Kasim Mohammed
The internet has been agog over the past few days with jokes, articles and sermons over the murder of Bilyaminu. Men are scared silly aver potential spouses. Women have activated their apology mode bringing other women down just because of a single woman’s action.
In all of this I think the society has failed to address a serious issue: Maryam Sanda’ s mental and psychological stability. From the story I see more than a slay queen, a spoilt brat or a very jealous woman. I know poor anger management pushes people to do things they later regret but not this. If Maryam is a normal woman and had stabbed Bilyaminu out of anger, it will be a single stab she’ll later regret. We are talking about multiple stabs on torso and groin area. Only a crazy person, an animalistic enemy or an abused and provoked person will do that and then drive the victim to the hospital herself and confess to the crime.
Which of these three is Maryam Sanda?
First, evidence of Sisha in a matrimonial home indicate potential drug abuse by the wife or both parties. In fact it may be the bond that brought them together and which made Bilyamin tolerate the chopped ear and bitten finger all because he knew it is drugged action. Either he loved her so much or he knew they were in it together or he taught her.
Second Maryam is not an enemy to Bilyaminu and had not planned to kill him. If she was she would have planned a more cunning way to kill him. She would not have exhibited her anger to anybody. She would have acted lovingly and used another way to finish him and she would not have driven him to the hospital.
Third, abusive men are the nicest in the wider society. Most people will never realise a man abuses a woman until the day she comes out to say. There may be more than meets the eye in the marriage. In the film ‘provoked’ Ashwairya commits murder only after tolerating years of abuse. Many versions say he was a known womanizer. Was this woman suspecting him of dumping her and moving on possibly after destroying her mentally?
Only Allah SWT can answer these inquiries but I smell a rat in all of this. It is not a simple black and white story. Ordinary women don’t act wild and stab spouses multiple times. This is not a case of a jealous wife. This is an action of a sick woman whom society should have extended a hand to before a whole family was ruined. This sad occurrence further reiterates the need for society to understand the urgent need for psychologists and to understand dangerous cues and action in people. It’s not only the ragged and wandering that are psychologically affected. Many seemingly normal people need help before that take dangerous steps. May Allah save us and our progeny from actions well forever regret. May Allah forgive Bilyaminus soul, protect that innocent daughter and do for Maryam Sanda what he thinks is best because he is the sole knower of hearts and actions.
Binta Kasim Mohammed, PhD, is an academician and public affairs analyst, who works with the prestigious Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria – Nigeria